Today, my daughter had her recital at the UP Abelardo Hall, at the conclusion of the UP College of Music Extension Program for Piano for First Semester 2015-2016. Around 24 kids performed and they were all amazing. But this blog is not about the kids. It’s about the parents…
Typically, there were parents armed with cameras, positioning at the best angles to get the best possible memento of the occasion- a video or photo that they can share the world . This is all very admirable.
What is saddening is that, on each of the many recitals that I have attended for the past few years, some moronic parent never fails to embarrass himself / herself by disrespecting other performers in favor of grabbing the best video angle for his “Why my Kids Are The Best” collection of videos.
Last year, a couple had continuously taken flash photography of performances, even those not of their kids, for whatever reason. It gave those of us at the back headaches, as well as disrupted performers and ruined video recordings. A baby cried during the performance, while yaya told him to hush, repeatedly, making the situation worse, when yaya could have easily just brought the baby outside.
At the recital today, a particular family hogged the place as if nothing else mattered but their family members’ performances. Three of them were performing: father, daughter and son. Mom had the camera and had one or more companions, but I do not know how many.
During performances, the said mom walked across the front row in order to fix the camera that she attached to a tripod , which she had placed permanently in front of the first row . She went back and forth repeatedly, for whatever reason , I truly don’t care. She had her head and body down slightly but was still very much visible to the audience. She coughed at many different times , conversed with her kids at the middle aisle , her companion walked in and out of the auditorium ..all while other kids were performing.
It made me sigh when I caught the shadow of her head and body on my camera and on the two other cameras my kids had used to record my youngest child’s performance at different angles from our own seats.
In between performances, and after I have had enough, I told her how she had ruined my video and those of others and she said sorry, with a straight face. It’s all frustrating that I see this family on the same recitals and they still haven’t learned the proper decorum. Daft and rude.
To this parent, I would like to present to you, the Etiquette for Recitals, so that you wouldn’t have to ruin another recital again.
Etiquette for Recitals
- Do not be late. It would be best to arrive a little early.
- Do not wear strong smelling perfumes.
- Sit quietly and listen to performances. This includes no talking, loud whispers, no continuous coughing, no wiggling or walking about. Remain seated. If you have to take a video in front, be very discrete and do not block the view.
- Go to the bathroom before hand. If you really have to go, wait for the current performance to finish before standing up and walking out.
- Do not use flash photography.
- Silence your cell phone or turn it off.
- Attend the entire recital. Leaving in the middle of a performance is rude.
- Clap at appropriate times.
- Dress appropriately.
- Enjoy the music.